Remote Connection to Mysql

Hi all, I know there are plenty of remote connection posts here....but none have helped me solve my problem. I have 2 win98 machines on a novell network, both have static IP addresses, and both machines can ping each other. One machine is running a webserver and the other the Mysql server, and I cannot get scripts on the webserver to connect to MySql. Using : $dbcnx = mysql_connect("xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx", "user", "pword"); if (!$dbcnx) { echo( "<P>Unable to connect to the " . "database server at this time.Try again later</P>" ); exit(); } RESULTS in the error message Unable to connect to the database server..... When I do a netstat -a on the PC with MySQL I dont see any listening ports, should there be. Is anybody able to shed some light on this for me??? Thanks Marcus