php, mod_ssl, apache

Hello everyone, I'm wondering if there is anyway to compile php, apache, and mod_ssl together. I know there is, and I have done it many times. However, I always have to compile php as a static apache module. How can php be installed --with-apxs=/path/to/apxs with mod_ssl? Has anyone done this? Also, I've been working on a freebsd box. When compiling php --with-apxs apache has some weird problems. For example: When I run: /usr/local/apache/bin/apachectl start apache starts fine. Then, when I run: /usr/local/apache/bin/apachectl restart apache says that there is no current apache process (it's not running). But it infact IS running. When I do a 'ps -ax' there are a few -httpd processes (which is normal). Thanks everyone, Tyler Longren